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BDSM101: Collars

What is a collar? There’s a meme circulating on Facebook showing “kinds” of collars, and frankly, it’s mostly BS. About the only “kind” of collar it got right was a posture collar, and that’s because a posture collar is designed to hold someone’s head in a very high position. A collar can be ANYTHING you…


Saturday, June 11, 2016: Lifestyle 101 (Smart Negotiations), Whip Demo, Forks N Floggers, Play Party

Saturday, June 11, 2016 We have a full slate of events this Saturday! 6:30pm – 8pm (Doors open at 6:15pm.) Lifestyle 101: Smart Negotiations. Free. FetLife Event Link: https://fetlife.com/events/446095 (Note: You do not have to RSVP on the event to attend, and this event is open to members and non-members. Must be 18 years of age…


Saturday, January 16, 2016: Lifestyle 101, Third Saturday Play Party With the Sarasota Society

Saturday, January 16, 2016 Lifestyle 101 7pm – 8pm (Doors open at 6:45pm.) Free FetLife Event Link: https://fetlife.com/events/397215 What are the Lifestyle 101 classes? These free classes are designed to help people just coming into the alternative lifestyle community. Are you new to BDSM or kinky/alternative lifestyles and have questions? Not sure where to start? Read…


Saturday, October 10, 2015: Lifestyle 101, Hands-On Flogging Demo, 2nd Saturday Play Party

Saturday, October 10, 2015 7pm – 8pm (doors open at 6:45pm): Lifestyle 101 FetLife Event Link: https://fetlife.com/events/375673 (Note: This month’s class will especially focus even more than usual on how to SPOT and AVOID predators in the lifestyle.) What are the Lifestyle 101 classes? These free classes are designed to help people just coming into the…


BDSM 101: What do I wear?

Q: I’m new. What do I wear to a BDSM club? This is going to sound like a smart-assed answer, but I swear it’s not: clothes. LOL Seriously. Here at the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club, our dress code is that you need to be street-legal through the door. What does that mean? It means when…


Saturday, September 12, 2015: Lifestyle 101

Saturday, September 12, 2015: Lifestyle 101 7pm – 8pm (doors open at 6:45pm) Cost: Free (open to members and non-members) FetLife Event Link: https://fetlife.com/events/375656 What are the Lifestyle 101 classes? Formerly branded as the Gateway Program, these are free classes to help people just coming into the alternative lifestyle community. Are you new to BDSM or…


What is “FemDom Friday”?

I identify as a Dominant female. And here at the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club, we run a regular event called “FemDom Friday.” (Usually every third Friday, but make sure to check our Calendar to verify it’s on the schedule.) But what does that mean? “What is FemDom Friday?” “How do you meet FemDoms?” “What happens?” “Can…


Saturday, 5/16/2015: Lifestyle 101 Class

Saturday, 5/16/2015: Lifestyle 101 Class 7pm – 8pm (Free) What are the Lifestyle 101 classes? Formerly branded as the Gateway Program, these are free classes to help people just coming into the alternative lifestyle community. Are you new to BDSM or kinky/alternative lifestyles and have questions? Not sure where to start? Read a book that…


BDSM101: Will I be “safe?”

“Will I be ‘safe’ if I come to an event at ____?” “I don’t have a collar. Will someone grab me and start playing with me?” These are questions I’ve heard too many times to count. (Thank you, poorly researched romance books by vanilla writers, and clips at BDSM porn sites.) You can fill in…


BDSM101: “Am I too _____ for BDSM?”

“Am I too _____ for BDSM?” tl;dr answer: No.* *As long as the ___ question isn’t “young.” You must be at least 18 years old, or whatever the age of legal adulthood is in your place of residence. I get this question at least once a week from readers who’ve discovered my Suncoast Series books…